If I can only attend one event, which should I come to?
We’d love to have you at everything, but if you can only make one, we recommend the Anand Karaj, our wedding ceremony. It’s the heart of the celebration and the moment we officially tie the knot. It’s a peaceful and meaningful event, followed by lunch and time to connect with loved ones.
What should I wear?
Traditional attire is encouraged! For the Anand Karaj (wedding ceremony), please dress modestly out of respect for the community. Women may wear wear long maxi dresses that cover the shoulders and chest or traditional Punjabi suits. Men may wear American formal suits. You’ll also need to cover your head inside the Gurdwara (both men and women). Scarves, dupattas, and bandanas are typical, and we’ll have some available if you forget.
Here are some references on acceptable attire.
What’s the Jaggo?
The Jaggo is a lively Punjabi pre-wedding celebration with dancing, music, food, and traditions. It’s more casual, so come ready to party! Dress is festive but not overly formal. For more background, visit the Ceremonies page.
What is the Anand Karaj?
The Anand Karaj is the Sikh wedding ceremony that takes place in a gurdwara (Sikh temple). It’s a spiritual, peaceful event centered around hymns and the couple circling the Guru Granth Sahib (Sikh holy scripture). It usually lasts about an hour. For more background, visit the Ceremonies page.
Do I need to attend every event?
We’d love for you to come to everything, but we understand if you can’t. The Jaggo is more of a fun, casual pre-wedding celebration with dancing and food, while the Anand Karaj is the formal wedding ceremony. Come to what you can, we’ll be grateful either way!
Will there be food?
Absolutely, lots of it! Punjabi weddings are known for amazing food. There will be a buffet style dinner at the Jaggo and a vegetarian breakfast and lunch (langar) served at the Gurdwara before and after the Anand Karaj. Come hungry!
Can I bring a gift? What’s appropriate?
Your presence is truly the greatest gift. If you'd like to give something, a card, cash, or something meaningful/personal is welcome. Please don’t feel pressured, sharing the day with you is what matters most. Traditionally, families gift the bride and groom cash in an envelope after the wedding ceremony. If you choose to participate, please make sure your name is on the envelope so we can thank you for your contribution! Additionally, refer to the Registry page if you’d like to send a gift via Venmo or Zelle.
Do I need to speak Punjabi or be Sikh to participate?
Not at all! Our wedding is open-hearted and inclusive. We’ll try to explain traditions along the way and just want you to feel welcome and celebrated.
Will there be alcohol?
Alcohol will be served at the Jaggo; however the Gurdwara is a sacred space and we ask that no subsances are brought to the premises.
How long will the ceremony/events last?
The Anand Karaj ceremony is about 1 hour, with food served before and afterward. Jaggo and reception events are more open-ended, like most big parties—expect a few hours of music, dancing, and fun.
Should I bring anything with me?
Just yourself and good vibes! If you’re coming to the Gurdwara for the Anand Karaj, you may want to bring a scarf for head covering, but we’ll also provide some.